In a fast-paced world where everyone is busy with their own lives and have very less time left for other people, it is very easy to misunderstand someone rather than understand him. It takes time to understand the other person while it is easy to judge the other person in no time. Life is a rat race where people are running after one thing or the other so when it comes to understanding the other person, no one has time for that. People come to conclusions, make a judgment and hence ruin their best relationship which was about to grow in the long term. You can only understand someone when you are at peace with your own self and this peace will come when your mind is free from stress. To lead a healthy life you need to be stress-free so that your brain can function at its ultimate full potential. With an agitated mind, you can only judge and come to conclusions from your unhappy state of mind which feels happy jumping from one person to another just to get your peace. You see life never functions that way and you will never ever get satisfaction in life or in relationships if you keep hopping from one person to another so the best thing is to allow the other person some time so that you both understand each other.
Don’t get misguided in other people’s opinion but always listen to your heart. Your feelings will never lie to you if you feel happy in the presence of the other person it means he is meant to be in your life be it as a Friend, Boyfriend, Lover or Husband. Few people take time to open up and some are like me straight upfront to the point. If I am to make a decision regarding someone I will not take much time if I know the person beforehand. I can understand a person in a few meetings or by looking at his face, my intuition, and the gut feeling never ever lie. I would say when you people also want to understand the other person just dig deep and find out from the type of feelings you have for that individual. Remember your face is the mirror of your soul. You can fake a smile, your identity but you cannot carry a fake soul because your face will speak.
Your soul speaks louder than words, your body’s vibrations are genuine and you cannot alter them just by altering your thinking so it is easy to understand the other person but yes the biggest question is are you interested in doing so. If you are genuinely interested than things will be happening in your life because you have sent your clear intentions not only to the other person but also to the universe. You will see that various incidences will start happening in your life so that you gain more clarity about him and don’t judge him wrongly. If you want to understand someone whom you love then you need to have patience, I would say lots and lots of patience if that person does not open up. Life is a challenge and so is understanding the other human being, if it would have been an easy task than great authors would not have written thousands of book just on body language and relationship. If you can understand the other person or I would say people in and around your life no one will be able to defeat you and you will reach the topmost ladder of success within no time because everything in life boils down to relationship, I would say good relationship. It is easy to get angry, unhappy, complain and fight but why is the other person behaving in a certain way is something which needs to be brought in the limelight. He may be struggling with a bad state of mind, bad job or had a breakup or is in love and if finding it difficult to speak up, there can be an “N” number of reasons for a changed behavior because you know that he does not behave that way so the obvious changes will be noticeable.
Develop acceptance for people whom you love and love them unconditionally because the moment you try to bind the other person according to your conditions and guidelines the relationship suffers. I have learned all my lessons the hard way so I think I am a better human being today than I was before. I understand relationships or I would say the other person better than before. Life took the roughest route to tone my life so in writing my opinion I am writing something which I tried and tested but now I have become wise and accommodate the other person better. Always leave some room for understanding him, if you feel like fighting or yelling now, just hold back, let your anger calm down and then discuss over the problem. It is easy to get angry when things are not going your way but very difficult to keep silent and hold on to your anger for some time so that you can look at him from a different perspective or angle. When you develop a tolerance for the other person that is the time your relationship starts growing and it bears lovely fruits. Just being married and tied up to each other for lifetime just for the sake of marriage will serve no good if you both don’t love each other, it will be more of a curse than a boon because you both can never prosper in each others company. When two souls unite to become one and they understand each other than both of them grow and achieve success in their respective lives.
I remember my elder sister when I talk about understanding the other person. She has got a heart of gold but her words will kill you when she is angry with you. It is very easy for people to misunderstand her and judge her. My younger sisters have one or more complains about her but I know my elder sister is like that only. So you see when I develop acceptance for the other person and accept her in totality without judging her, it is easy for me to love her because if I bog down the relationship with conclusions than I will hate her. The very form of human existence is meant to love and spread love, not hatred. When you love the other person you make things happen not only in your life but also in his life because you manifest your thoughts and beliefs in the other person. I would say you become an energy magnet and just transfer your good energies to the other person. You will hear people saying to avoid bad company, ever thought of why they tell you this? The only reason being you catch on to the wrong vibration which corrupts your mind. When you cannot get like-minded people to walk with you, walk alone rather than take a bad company. Try and understand people, their behavior, their words, their body language so that you can live a better life in a better world which has been created by you. It is you who has the power to create your best world with the best relationships which are possible by developing an understanding for the other person. You will see when you change your mindset your whole life changes and you are more happy with your life.
The stress lines which would have aged you and made you look older will appear a little later because you are a satiated soul. Pain, stress, hurt, are feelings which are generated for people who are close to our heart because we never develop any feelings for complete strangers or people who do not matter in our life. If the other person has taken away your night’s sleep or hunger that means you love him dearly and these are the feelings which you will never ever have for any stranger whom you met yesterday talking on the street who asked you your address. I know understanding the other person is a very big challenge but let's explore it and let’s conquer this very challenge and get victorious. Life is an ongoing process in which we are discovering life itself, why not create a space for the other person whom we love the most and try and understand him so that we create two happy human beings who love each other unconditionally. The next time you fall in love or want to judge someone, take out some time and develop an understanding for that person so that you get less judgemental and think from a clear head which wants solutions and not problems. It is easy to create problems and live in them but difficult to find solutions and understand the other person.
Explore life, explore people and find a good soul to fall in love with. Life is beautiful. Try understanding him and by the time you people understand each other, it will be time for you both to reach the grave, Great Na! Its life, anything is possible.
I would love to get your feedback and also your ways of understanding the other person. Do share your experiences.
